things brian needs to do to keep me from moving:
get his grades up.
be able to tell me for sure that he CAN get through school.
make a conciuos effort to help me around the house.
take better care of himself (take his medicine more reliably without my reminders, keep up with his appoinments, check his blood sugar more often)
be willing to seek treatment for his depression.
be willing to help me get healthy (well, more not get in the way of my trying to get healthy)
things that i can do that would keep me here:
get promoted (since michelle is leaving, there is a chance, though probably slight. i dont think i could turn down salary...)
find out that i couldn't transfer or that there isn't opportunity for advancement there, or that i couldn't find another job, apt, roommate etc. for when i get there.
these things would keep me here for at least a year.
i think this list is very fair, and i dont think i can tell brian, i know that he would do all of those things if he knew that it would keep me here, but i need to know that he can do them for himself. he cant live for me, and i cant live for him. i love him, and i want more than anything for him to be happy. but i dont think he'll stay happy on the path we're on. i do want to at least try staying together even if i do move. but we'll see.
